This
year my word is Focus. I chose this word because I want to really
focus on what is most important to me – my faith in God, my ethics and morals, the
quality of my life, my happiness and contentment. What doesn’t fit, has to go.
I have
decluttered” the stuff” from my life that no longer serves me and enhances my
life and I continue to do that on a regular basis to make sure I maintain that. I carefully pick and choose what I listen to,
read, watch on television and participate in.
I meet with my therapist once a month to make sure my mental health is
intact. I am focusing more on taking
good care of myself.
One of
the things I’ve also felt compelled to do is to tighten up my circle of
friends, family members and associates.
If people in my life do not fit within my set of principles or are
damaging to my overall wellbeing I no longer wish to spend my time with
them. If they do not enhance my life or
cause me to feel uncomfortable I am going to avoid them. If they degrade me in anyway because they don’t
agree with my way of life or how I feel and think, then I don’t need them to be
in my life. The world is full of hate
and ugliness so I don’t need to invite that into my inner circle.
I only want
to surround myself with really good people.
Not to sound like a bible thumping holy roller, but if you follow the
teachings and examples of Jesus Christ, then you are in with me! He was kind, patient, loving and generous and
that is how I try to live my life as well.
I have zero tolerance for racism, hateful thoughts, statements and
behaviors, greed and corruption, the total disregard for the rules of law and
our United States Constitution. It is
ugly and it is WRONG on more levels than I can count and if anyone is okay with any of it I don’t want to associate with that person. It’s that simple.
I know
we all have the right to think and believe what we choose to, however I don’t have
to accept all of it into my life. I have
a criteria that must be met in order for someone to have a relationship with
me. I’m tightening up my circle and it
feels right and just and better.
I think it makes perfect sense to both clean up your mental and emotional life as well as your physical one. Widowhood has done this for me, in a way. It took a lot of people out of my circle and made space for me to add new ones. Without a significant other to influence me, I am able to see more clearly who I am and what I want. That kind of autonomy is empowering!
ReplyDeleteGood for you Gina! :)
DeleteAgreed! I have 2 best friends, 1 in Chicago and 1 here in CO and its all I need.
ReplyDeleteGood friends are better than fair acquaintances.
DeleteI agree we tightened or circle a few years bad. I did not need to be berated for my life choices. I have to do what is best for me and my family.
ReplyDeleteAlways!
DeleteA good post and something we should all take to heart!
ReplyDeleteThank you Claudia
DeleteAmen!
ReplyDelete:) :)
DeleteIndeed, whether more liberal or more conservative, it makes sense to tighten that circle to better align with our beliefs and principles. Much less anxiety that way! (Not that we should be mean or hateful or ugly to those on the "other side", but I'm definitely more comfortable and less anxious with those who have beliefs more like me. :0) ) Gayle
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