The
world outside is looking pretty ugly these days with our nation in a constant
uproar. It hurts my heart to see all that
is happening and it often feels like we are powerless to do anything about
it. How can one person like me make things
better? The mere idea that I can somehow
affect a change seems overwhelming and impossible. But, I really can do something. I really can make a difference.
A
couple weeks ago I told you how I am tightening my circle. Ironically, right after I
wrote that post and was still deciding whether or not I was actually going to
publish it a friend of mine I have known for well over thirty years posted the most
disgusting and hateful post on Facebook I have ever read. It was a picture of Renee Goode and a very long diatribe of hateful, spiteful
things about her and her lifestyle. I
thought my friend’s account must’ve been hacked so I called her only to find
out that she had actually written it. Why? She didn’t know this person personally and the
things she was saying were so far out there and not based on any facts. It was just horrible. My friend stated she was standing behind
every word. I was stunned.
I hung
up and sat there for a while processing the conversation and then I quietly removed
this person from my Friends list because I don’t want to read things like that
in the future. It made me feel like I
never really knew her. I feel really sorry
for my friend to have so much hatred for someone she didn’t even know. It was really
bad. Will I call this woman again? Probably not.
Will I try to continue to have a relationship with her? Not likely.
Will I ever feel comfortable being around her again? No. I
won’t.
I haven’t
heard from her since that day. And, it’s
okay. Not okay about what she said, but okay
not to accept her hatefulness into my life.
Sad to lose a friend, but even sadder that she was willing to choose her
Facebook post over friendship. I don’t
feel bad about my decision to keep her outside of my circle. I made the right decision. I’m just too great for hate. It’s simply not welcome in my life.
I too have done the same! Good for you! Who needs friends like that. I think we all experienced something similar with what is going on in the country. People picked sides and I'd rather be for empathy and compassion then hate!
ReplyDeleteI have done the same. The absolute depravity of the things in the files was the last straw for me on people who are still defending him. And many of them call themselves Christians :(. We have to protect our peace
ReplyDeleteGood for you!! I have had to do the same. I will not tolerate some of the hate, violence and downright horrible things some feel all too comfortable saying.
ReplyDeleteI think it is 100% OK to purge relationships that don't work for either of you any more. People change. They develop ideas and thoughts and lives that sometimes veer wildly off the course they began on. That is not your burden to adjust to. I got off FB a few months ago for that very reason. So much hate is spewed there - from all sides. Its not news, nor reality. A very unsociable social media for sure.
ReplyDeleteNow I must look up the name robin goode. Or do you mean Renee?
ReplyDeleteI was told by my brother, who was stationed in Germany that the Germans have a saying that goes something like: If a Nazi sits at a table, and 9 people who aren’t Nazis sit down with him, then there are 10 Nazis at the table. I believe the only response to people like that former friend of yours is to shun them, be they even our own blood. Love and power to you.
ReplyDelete-Meg B.
You made a good choice to end the friendship. Hate is just too much to carry with you. There is just too much of these stuff out there these days.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry for the loss of a friendship for you, but feel God is protecting you with this decision to unfriend her. Right now I am going through a time of figuring out why God is calling me to pull back from a long-time friend. We walked through some very dark days for her and then some happier times. Several years ago I made the decision that if a relationship became one-sided on my part, then it was time to let that person "go." This friend has become rarely, if ever, available for a phone chat nor does she reach out to me. Apparently I''m a bit dense and while I don't feel she doesn't like me anymore; I truly think God is telling me to let this relationship slide away quietly. I feel sad but at the same time, she doesn't live close to me and maybe he had someone else closer to replace this. Case in point, out of the blue, an acquaintance DMed me and we spent 1-1/2 hours chatting and catching up on Saturday. While we do not have the same closeness as my first friend; we do like each other and hit it off from the first time we met. God's ways are not our ways. I'm eager to see what He has in store for me in this area.
ReplyDeleteThat is so amazing. I'm finding, since letting this friendship go, that I've been getting closer and spending more time with my other friends. Which is so wonderful, plus they live here and the other gal lives out of state. God's true blessings to be sure.
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